This evening, I photographed some pretty interesting clouds. Stripes, speckles, and lovely colours. Just thought I'd share.
This entry was actually meant for the 'Roommates With Benefits' topic at What Would Judy Say? but alas, I went over their 1000 character limit. So, here's as good a place as any!
Around eight years ago (I was 24), I met a man I worked with. Over a few months, we became very good friends and eventually, that evolved into a romantic relationship. He was a very kind, funny, and sweet man during the time we got to know each other. I had moved back in with my parents for a year after the failure of a 5-year living-together relationship. Around the time things started to get serious with my new boyfriend, it was time for me to move out and get a place of my own.
Boyfriend started staying at my new apartment almost immediately. First, the apartment needed to be painted. He decided to take on that task, and frankly, I let him. (I did do some painting, but I really, really hate it!) Then, he needed to stay over during the week because my place was closer to where we both worked. Three months in, his pay stub had my address on it and he was receiving mail and phone calls to my apartment regularly.
I could see what was happening, but for some reason, maybe because I was young, I just let it go. I figured since the rental agreement and all the bills were in my name, I’d have no problem kicking him out if I had to. After living together for a few months, his true colours came out. He was an alcoholic, verbally abusive, lost his job (due to an incident at our workplace, but that’s another topic for another day) and refused to hold down a new one. Stole my emergency credit card and charged up booze, clothes, whatever he wanted (I eventually cancelled the card when he wouldn't give it back). Always said he would pay me back but of course, he never did. He also started making long-distance phone calls to girls he met on the internet (and having them in our home when I was at work, which I found out about much later), but would come up with some pretty creative lies to cover it up.
Then, the physical abuse escalated, as well as regular tantrums in which many of my belongings were destroyed. He would usually rip the phone out of the wall, block the door, and threaten to do awful things if I tried to get help. One night, I came home from work to him drunk as a skunk. I burst into tears over the stress and misery of it all and he responded by throwing things at me, including a steel-toed work boot. I left and ran to a nearby payphone. I called the non-emergency police line and told the dispatcher what was happening and that this had been going on for a while. She asked how long he had been living in the residence. I told her it was probably about six months at that time. Her response? “Well, we can’t make him leave!!! He legally lives there if he’s been in the residence over a month.” WHAT?! I hadn’t known that…..how could this even be? Again, I burst into tears over the phone and told her I’d press charges, I’d do ANYTHING to put an end to this awful situation. She sent police officers to the parking lot where I called from. It was probably after midnight at this point. I told the officers what was going on and they hemmed and hawed. “Well, you’re already out of the apartment; I could get criticized for removing him, too.” Jaw, meet floor. Finally, after arguing with the officers in a parking lot in the middle of the night, with bruises on my legs, they agreed to go talk to him. When they got there, he had left (this happened more than once), so they left. No report, nothing. I couldn't get help to get him out unless I was seriously beaten up, it seems.
Well, I stayed patient. One morning, he went off one me for whatever reason. He punched me in the face and slammed me into a wall. I managed to bolt out the door and run upstairs to my neighbours. Luckily, they were already on the phone with 911. FINALLY, he was arrested; FINALLY there was an order of protection against him! He was arrested a few more times after that for stalking me and trying to break into my home (to this day, there’s still a warrant for his arrest in this province. He took off to the province he came from). Anyway, he actually spoke to a lawyer at some point who informed him that since we were common-law, he had a right to half of my money and belongings. We weren't married, he sponged off of me for months, but he’s entitled to what little I had left?! He never pursued this, but I’d have burned it all before letting him have a single thing.
Anyway, the morals/lessons of my long-winded story? DO NOT let someone stay with you for longer than 30 days, or NO ONE will assist you if they refuse to leave. It doesn't matter if there was never a contract or agreement for them living there. Another lesson; you may think you know someone, but don't move in together during the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Red flags aren't always so red through rose-coloured glasses. One last lesson; unless you have pets or kids, the only one you are responsible for financially supporting is YOU. I learned a very expensive lesson. I'm still paying for it, since all these years later, he still habitually harasses me.
If you're anything like me, you're pretty excited about the solar eclipse tonight! I wish I had a welding lense to see it! Unfortunately, it will only show as a partial eclipse in Kitchener, but cool nonetheless!
The eclipse will start (in Kitchener) at 8:20 PM tonight and hit its maximum at 8:44, which is also the sunset time. It will be over at 10:06 PM.
For more information, check out CTV News and Time And Date.
This past Thursday, (May 3rd), Kitchener saw a pretty spectacular thunderstorm. Prior to the light show, the cloud cover was crazy. I was at work and during my break, I snapped a few cell phone pictures of the sky over downtown Kitchener. A co-worker and I even saw a UFO! I’m thrilled to have seen it with a witness. Unfortunately, the sighting was so quick, I didn't manage to capture it on film.
This past Saturday, (May 5th), there was a supermoon! I recently bought myself a telescope and I was thrilled to have the opportunity to take a closer look. As the moon rose, it had a reddish tint. Upon closer inspection through the telescope, there were hues of purple, orange, and yellow around it, as well. At one point, I could even see some pretty well-defined craters. I only wish the telescope had a camera. Hell, I wish I had a better camera to take some really decent pictures. As the moon ascended, a thin patch of cloud slowly moved over it. Through the telescope, the moon kind of took on a Jupiter-like appearance, the clouds showing up as black stripes. Kickass!
Photos from Simply the Skies - 2012
As some may be aware, I have been placing ads here and there to try and find a guitarist or even a band that is looking to casually jam and let things evolve. No pressure wanted on my part. Basically, I just want to have fun and if I/we prove to be good enough to perform, wonderful. However, I’m not really out to try and make it big. That isn't the priority at this stage of the game.
I’ve had a few people respond to my ads/online music profiles. 99.9% of the time, they've been wishy-washy, cryptic, and not very good with communicating. I don’t chase people…ever. I’m not sure if perhaps I’m out of touch with the ‘band culture’ or what, but I find that getting the ball rolling has been extremely difficult. I figure if I’ve piqued enough interest, there will be motivation to keep contact with me.
This past weekend, I was contacted by someone who is also looking to start a blues band with perhaps 2-3 other people. I actually met him for coffee yesterday. We stood out front and chatted for about half an hour. It was a nice chat, albeit a little awkward since this was the first time he and I have met. He has some great ideas and a real vision of where he wants to take things. It all sounds wonderful, but I have some reservations. He is quite keen on making it big, to be able to do this for a living. No one in their right mind would turn their nose up at the opportunity, should it rear its head, but I really don’t want any pressure to be perfect. He also mentioned about how the band would have to have a particular look and personality; I don’t disagree, but again, I feel a bit of concern about not measuring up. First and foremost, I want to have fun, learn, and improve. That said, I’m certainly not going to turn my nose up at a potentially exciting opportunity. All I can do is be myself and try my best, I suppose.
He emailed me today. If I can sing Since I've Been Loving You by Led Zeppelin (in my choice of key), then he is interested in working with me. I guess I will have to practice tonight and see if this is something I can do well enough!
No pressure, though…